It seems counterintuitive that men, who have dominated the world for millennials and are the leading perpetrators of rape, are the ones deciding what it means to be raped. The evolving definition of rape has been on the rapist side until the twenty-first century.
Even today there is disagreement on what is considered rape, whether rape can occur if the rapist is someone the victim knows or is in a relationship with. Despite the evolution of cultural and moral ideals, we still see medieval ethics find their way back into the definition of rape. Todd Akin, former U.S. Representative believed that “Without a woman’s consent she could not conceive.” Bring back the barbaric theory that a womans body would either not allow her to get pregnant during rape, and if she does get pregnant, it would no longer be considered rape.
Men should not have the power to decide what is considered rape, if they do not intend to educate themselves in order to have a full understanding of all the forms and outcomes of rape.
Source: Men Defining Rape: A History
It seems counterintuitive that thousands of dollars would be put into the final year of a person’s life just to try and discover the slightest chance of recovery. Paying for test after test, different doctors, and more procedures just to get more negative results that continue to confirm the unavoidable conclusion of life.
Although there are cases where doctors have come back with false negative tests, it is never a bad thing to get a second opinion when it comes to discussing the possibility of letting a person move on. However when the process is dragged out to a fifth test, a fourth opinion, the patient’s chances of getting an optimistic outcome has diminished a fair amount. End-of-life care, although it is there to support families to make their decisions on the beloved’s behalf easier, it causes the families to pay thousands just to come to the decision to pull the plug.
Source: How Mom’s Death Changed My Thinking About End-of-Life Care
It seems counterintuitive that we chase after something that we could have had all along, but had no idea how to get. Most people spend their life trying to achieve happiness through a job, a family, etc. People will get sad or disappointed when their dreams don’t come true, but years later it may turn out to be the best thing that happened to them.
Fate can seem so cruel when it throws a curve ball at us. Although we hate it when we are given a limited time to assess our choices, those decisions turn out to be the most beneficial one you can make.
The decisions where the outcome is decided quickly without too much deliberation, are the ones that people tend to regret less. They give people a sense of accomplishment or joy, knowing they made a good decision. Compared to those that have the time to contemplate over whether they are making the right decision. These people are more likely to disagree with their earlier choice due to the amount of time they begin to question their initial thoughts. Those stuck with their hasty decision are more likely to be pleased by what they chose. For instance, if someone was given the choice between a cookie and a brownie, very few people would regret the decision they made and many would just be happy.
Even then every choice is circumstantial, there will always be a harder question that needs to be answered, we may not always know what’s best. Life is never truly knowing if you made the right choice, just enjoy what you do in the moment.
Source: Dan Gilbert: The surprising science of happiness