If a primary caretaker has a negative attitude toward their child, the risk increases that their child will grow up hostile toward others. And it’s not just aggression toward others that results from child abuse; a large number of children raised by abusive parents also harm themselves. This negative behavior is caused by children not learning appropriate techniques for handling life’s disappointments. If a child is not raised with coping skills, the child is much too likely to act “inappropriately” than one who has developed more reasonable approaches. The effect of poor parenting, as reported by Dr. Geoffrey Dahmer in “The Bully Papers,” is that everyone gets the child they deserve.