If a primary caretaker has a negative attitude toward their child, it increases the risk that their child will grow up hostile towards others. And it’s not just aggression toward others that results from child abuse; a large number of children raised by abusive parents also harm themselves. The reason for this negative behavior is that the children don’t learn appropriate techniques for handling life’s disappointments. If you weren’t raised with coping skills, you are much more likely to act “inappropriately” than if you had developed more reasonable approaches. As reported by Dr. Geoffrey Dahmer in “The Bully Papers,” the effect of poor parenting is that everyone gets the child they deserve.