If a primary caretaker has a negative attitude toward his child, it increases the risk that his child will grow up hostile towards others. And it’s not just aggression toward others that results from child abuse; a large number of children raised by abusive parents also harm themselves. This negative behavior occurs because the children don’t learn appropriate techniques for handling life’s disappointments. If children aren’t raised with coping skills, they are much too likely to act ‘inappropriately’ than if they developed with more reasonable approaches. The effect of poor parenting, as reported by Dr. Geoffrey Dahmer in “The Bully Papers”, is that everyone gets the child they deserve.