If a primary caretaker has a negative attitude toward their child it increases the risk that their child will grow up hostile towards others. And it’ s not just aggression toward others that results from child abuse; a large amount of children raised by abusive parents also harm themselves. This negative behavior is because the children don’t learn appropriate techniques for handling life’s disappointments. If children aren’t raised with coping skills, they’re more likely to act “inappropriately” than if they had developed more reasonable approaches. The effect of poor parenting, as reported by Dr. Geoffrey Dahmer in “The Bully Papers,” is that everyone gets the child they deserve.