Causal Rewrite— kingofcamp

Peter Pan and Wendy are Terrible Influences

Bad influences result in more terrible solutions. Poor childhood influences are to blame for Western society’s inability to condemn systematic female oppression. An ongoing crisis, systemic female oppression has led to a fight for power— power available only to men. A childish way of handling differences in opinion, fighting has led women to take the objectification of female virginity men have created and use that objectification as a weapon. In the name of power, women continue to allow misogynistic behavior— romanticizing female virginity in order to fight back and/or to hold power, a behavior learned from men.

            Peter Pan teaches boys that narcissism is an acceptable trait to have in society. Protagonist of the classic play, Peter and Wendy, written and produced by James Matthew Barrier, Peter Pan is a prime example of an exaggerated stereotype— a self-centered, absent-minded boy. Peter Pan inspires young boys alike who watch in awe, lacking a sophisticated mindset to make level-headed judgement. Like sponges, young boys’ minds are weak and absorbent, only able to “pick up” material presented without a second thought. Being so influential, the Peter Pan Syndrome is a metaphor psychologists use to describe adults who have characteristics similar to Peter Pan. Authors Melek Kalkan, Meryem Vural Batik, Leyla Kaya, and Merve Turan of “Peter Pan Syndrome ‘Men Who Don’t Grow’: Developing a Scale” define and outline the Peter Pan Syndrome— a spectrum. Adult males who meet the standards to be placed on the spectrum are often described as: lacking responsibility, immature, lacking sophistication, having the inability to express and process complex human emotion, and most commonly, narcissistic.

Egoistic men take authoritative positions in society which ruin the chance of allowing for  complexity to be a norm in Western societies. Simplicity is the best solution for men that lack the intellectual ability to process such complexities. Female virginity is an umbrella term—ambiguous and multilayered. Understanding female virginity is an individual process, unique to every woman. But often times, women and ideas of what is female virginity are limited to a one line sentence— an over exaggerated stereotype. The deep-rooted patriarchal system in the West is plagued by “Peter Pans—” adult men who refuse to grow up. These power-hungry men achieve simplicity in ambiguous terms such as female virginity by limiting the agency women have in making decisions. Barbara L. Fredrickson and Tomi-Ann Roberts, authors of “OBJECTIFICATION THEORY: Toward Understanding Women’s Lived Experiences and Mental Health Risks,” stresses objectification is used as a tool to degrade women in culture— leading to poor self-worth and anxiety. Objectification is used strategically to place women inferior to men, allowing men to keep and hold power, therefore limiting a woman’s agency. As women are objectified by men, the understanding of female virginity becomes shallow, simple, and misrepresented.

Women allow “Peter Pans” to be accepted in greater society— as women are taught. Another metaphor psychologists use is The Wendy Dilemma— used to describe women who take on a mother’s role in a relationship or marriage, instead of being an affective partner. Wendy is mature, caring, and attentive unlike Peter Pan who is immature and self-centered. Like boys, young girls also watch and absorb characters’ actions. Wendy teaches girls to be accepting of boys’ immaturity and inability to reason. Finally growing up, girls, now women learn to simply shrug off a man’s crudity. Women pacify men, continuing to cater to a man’s every need— as Wendy teaches girls. This process results in an unhealthy dynamic between men and women. A societal game of tug-of-war, this cycle creates a ripple effect. Neil Davidson, author of “Oh Boys! Sex Education and Young Men,” claims that men and women are born with the same emotions. Though, as both men and women grow and progress in life, men are taught to be more masculine while women are taught to be more feminine, Davidson continues. By masculine men are taught to be tougher, stronger, and rougher. In juxtaposition, women are taught to be more feminine which means to be soft spoken, gentle, and attending. As young girls grow into these stereotypical ideas of what a woman should be, girls learn to accept that boys will be Peter Pans— as Wendy teaches girls alike.  

Accepting the nature of men and misogynistic views, women lose power and respect. Desperate, women romanticize female virginity, allowing for continuous objectification and oppression of women alike— all to hold any ounce of power and use that claimed power against men. Laura M. Carpenter, author of “Gender and the Meaning and Experience of Virginity Loss in the Contemporary United States,” details that women consider female virginity to be sacred. This idealized concept of female virginity creates an uncomfortable distance between women and men—a terrible solution. By considering the concept of virginity to be sacred, women ultimately allow for objectification— objectification that men perseverate on. By treating the concept of female virginity as something of holy value, men then believe that female virginity is an object worth collecting, an object of high value. The Wendy Dilemma comes back to bite women in the end since women stay accepting of oppression and objectification.

Terrible solutions alleviate nothing. Systemic oppression and the objectification of women is an ongoing crisis in the West. Men continue to oppress women by objectifying female virginity while women simply accept these terms— then using objectification as a weapon. Instead of handling this crisis like adults, women and men look at childhood influences, such as Peter Pan and Wendy for guidance. A ripple effect, this vicious cycle continues as men pursue simplicity— a quality that solves nothing — and women pursue mere blindsided acceptance— a quality that also solves nothing. The Peter Pan Syndrome and Wendy Dilemma are a counterintuitive Ying and Yang that creates a ripple effect in the West. In order to solve this ongoing debate, women must stop catering to a man’s every need while letting go of the idea that female virginity is sacred. Men, on the other hand, must learn to grow up and leave Neverland. Peter Pan and Wendy solved nothing; children do not solve adult problems.


CARPENTER, LAURA M. “Gender and the Meaning and Experience of Virginity Loss in the Contemporary United States.” Gender & Society, vol. 16, no. 3, 2002, pp. 345–365.,   

Davidson, Neil. “Promoting Public Health through Public Art in the – Proquest.” Oh Boys! Sex Education and Young Men, ProQuest, 1996,

Fredrickson, Barbara L., and Tomi-Ann Roberts. “Objectification Theory: Toward Understanding Women’s Lived Experiences and Mental Health Risks.” Psychology of Women Quarterly, vol. 21, no. 2, 1997, pp. 173–206.,

Kalkan, Melek, et al. “Peter Pan Syndrome ‘Men Who Don’t Grow’: Developing a Scale.” Men and Masculinities, vol. 24, no. 2, 2019, pp. 245–257.,×19874854.

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11 Responses to Causal Rewrite— kingofcamp

  1. davidbdale says:

    I’ve responded (probably over-responded) on your Open Strong post about your first paragraph. Let that suffice. I’ll concentrate here on an overall reaction to your argument since you haven’t specified what sort of feedback you’d like.

    I do want to compliment your title before I go.

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    • kingofcamp says:

      Hello again,
      For feedback, I am open to any criticism but there are a few specifics I am looking and hoping for. Of course, please speak your mind regarding my essay, anything helps. Though the questions I am hoping to have answered and are more important to me are:
      1. Does my essay make sense logically?
      2. Is my explanation too abstract?
      a. If so, how do I improve?
      3. Do I explain well enough that this process is a repetitive cycle?
      4. Am I convincing/persuasive?

      I hope this is a good start. Thanks a million!


  2. davidbdale says:

    What I notice about your second and third paragraphs, King, is that, although they contain a wealth of information, we readers are consuming without understanding it, as if we were seated at the appetizer table and didn’t know whether there would be an entree. Your introduction prepared us for a world in which men objectify and dominate women, one in which they value virgins so much that women have adopted an outsized respect for it, too.

    Now a paragraph devoted to men who refuse, like Peter Pan, to grow up.
    Now a paragraph devoted to men who, like Peter Pan, become bad cops?

    The trick is to find the sentence or sentences in each paragraph that keep us moving forward TOWARD the goal, so that we find value in the new material, want to pack it in our bags for future use, comprehend it because we know how useful it will be.


  3. davidbdale says:

    What I notice about your fourth paragraph is that only the last sentence is animated by something human. The rest use passive voice and abstraction to distance us from the very real human struggle that the content implies.
    —We don’t know who thinks virginity is one-way.
    —We don’t know who deprives women of complexity; we don’t see women struggling. Instead, something deprives them of an opportunity.
    —We don’t know who ignores the female perspective on virginity.
    —And we don’t know what’s so complex about it.


  4. davidbdale says:

    I congratulate you on your choice of a particularly vivid set of metaphors for the characters you want to portray in your essay, King. Readers will immediately recognize and appreciate the character traits Peter and Wendy represent. The contrast is vivid and startling between the heavily populated, personalized, and emotional fictional characters and the long sections of your writing that contain no people, use passive verbs, and portray everything as conflict of abstractions.

    Get some people into those abstract sections.
    And be sure we know where every paragraph is taking us.


  5. kingofcamp says:

    I have made immense changes to my Casual Argument. I hope this argument serves me well. General feedback would be appreciated, as always. Thanks a million!


  6. davidbdale says:

    An ongoing crisis, systemic female oppression has led to a fight for power— power only available to men. A childish way of handling differences in opinion, fighting has led women to accept the objectification of female virginity.

    I think what you mean in the preceding is not that fighting has led women to “accept” anything, but that in order to fight back (a behavior learned from men) women have taken up “objectified female virginity” as a weapon.

    “only abuse”: power available ONLY to men

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  7. davidbdale says:

    At the risk of deploying very male metaphors, I am in awe of the power and thrust of your argument, King. 🙂


  8. kingofcamp says:

    I have made edits to everything you said to reconsider and look over. I hope my edits will suffice.


  9. kingofcamp says:

    I made more edits.


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