If a primary caretaker has a negative attitude toward their child it increases the risk that their child will grow up hostile towards others. And it’s not just aggression toward others that results from child abuse; a large amount of children raised by abusive parents also harm themselves. This negative behavior is caused when children don’t learn appropriate techniques for handling life’s disappointments. Raised without coping skills, children are much more likely to act ‘inappropriately’ than children who have developed more reasonable approaches. The effects of poor parenting, as reported by Dr. Geoffrey Dahmer in “The Bully Papers,” is that everyone gets the child they deserve.