If a primary caretaker has a negative attitude toward a child it increases the risk that the child will grow up hostile toward others. And it’s not just aggression toward others that results from child abuse; a large number of children raised by abusive parents also harm themselves. The reason for this negative behavior is that the children don’t learn appropriate techniques for handling disappointments life creates. If you aren’t raised with coping skills, you’re much too likely to act ‘inappropriately’ than if you have developed more reasonable approaches. The effect of poor parenting, as reported by Dr. Geoffrey Dahmer in “The Bully Papers”, is that everyone gets the child they deserve.