If a primary caretakers has a negative attitude toward their child, it increases the risk that the child will grow up hostile towards others. And it’s not just aggression toward others that results from child abuse; a large number of children raised by abusive parents also harm themselves. This negative behavior is because the children don’t learn appropriate techniques for handling life’s disappointments. A person raised without coping skills is much too likely to act “inappropriately“ than if you have developed more reasonable approaches. The effect of poor parenting, as reported by Dr. Geoffrey Dahmer in “The Bully Papers,” is that all parents get the child they deserve.