If a primary caretaker has a negative attitude toward their child, it increases the risk that their child will grow up hostile towards others. It is not just aggression towards others that results from child abuse; many children raised by abusive parents also harm themselves. This negative behavior occurs when children don’t learn appropriate techniques for handling life’s disappointments. When people are not raised with coping skills, they are much to likely to act “inappropriately” then if they would have developed more reasonable approaches. The effect of poor parenting, as reported by Dr. Geoffrey Dahmer in “The Bully Papers”, is that everyone gets the child they deserve.